Couples Coaching

How was your last conversation with your partner?

Did it go something like this?

This is such a common scenario for couples who are struggling. 

Is your relationship struggling? Is there tension, dissatisfaction, and pain? Have your best attempts at “talking” led to more separateness instead of reconciliation? 

Lately have you been wondering if you were really meant to be? Will you ever solve your problems? Can you get over past hurts? How can you ever see each other any differently? Is it possible to feel the way you felt once upon a time? Is there any hope?

What influences do you have around you? Is there anyone or any other couple supporting you two, cheering you on? Or are others nearby actually contributing to your strife? Do you each have your own meddlers chiding you and telling you how you should tell each other off? Are other relationships falling apart around you two?

Maybe you don’t have friends, and that is part of your problem, or you’re too embarrassed to be seen in public because no matter where you go you end up fighting like the pelicans above.

And what circumstances are you facing outside of your marriage? It doesn’t seem like the world today has much of a family focus. Bosses want employees to love work more than life and family. There are so many societal pressures to do, do, do. Outsiders may lack respect for commitment and overstep their bounds. Couples are pulled apart more than supported and lifted up. Divorce rates remain high. Add these stresses to a struggling relationship and you’ve got….well, you know, don’t you?

Life is full of challenges, twists and turns, upsets that can wreak havoc on relationships. Yet even though you have faced turmoil in your relationship, I firmly believe you can find joy, peace and contentment.

Sometimes—in the midst of it all—even if you believe as I do, it can still be difficult to see….to understand how things can be any different or better.

But they can! Couples coaching can help!

I know it can be confusing and difficult to sort through your differing beliefs about femininity, masculinity, marriage, infidelity, parenting, house roles, work, religion, etc. You are two different people with different personalities, sexual identities, motivations and drives. You grew up with different images and expectations about life and relationships. You two came from different backgrounds, families and cultures. You both saw, heard and experienced life and love, or lack thereof, in different ways. Your points of view about how relationships work and how the world works came from these origins and could be very healthy or very distorted. 

Sometimes it helps to have a third party, a neutral observer, a guide to help make connections, see patterns, determine cause and effect in the troubles of a relationship. I’ve helped hundreds of couples work through their trials, make changes in their relationships, and find comfort and peace with each other again….and more romance as well! 

How the heck do you sort all of this out? How do couples find common ground, come to terms with their differences, and live happy lives together?

Many couples smartly seek help and advice for their relationships at various stages. I’ve worked with couples in their first fights as newlyweds needing to learn more about each other and how to build a strong relationship; and I’ve helped couples with serious relationship traumas and threats of divorce in the air.

Whether you are in crisis mode, near divorce, or just feeling severely strained, through couples coaching you can get past the barriers and reach higher ground as a couple. 

I can help you take the stress out of your talks so you can process your problems and move beyond them to mend your strained relationship. I can help you learn to recognize and accept your individual differences, show love to each other in more meaningful ways, communicate effectively, solve problems, and move past bearing issues. 

You can discover how to be better partners, find more happiness and fulfillment with each other, have more peace in your relationship, fall back in love, and create deeper intimacy.

You will regain respect for each other and see each other in a new light, or in the brightness that was there in the beginning. You will be able to realize how you can accept each other and your differences and live happily together in a fulfilling and interdependent way. You will grow as a couple and each in your own ways as well.

Then together you will be able to rekindle your fizzled flames or ignite new sparks of power to move forward with more excitement, vibrance and passion in your relationship.

I know your probably full of doubt, wondering if you just aren’t right for each other. You both might be questioning each other’s commitment. One or both of you might have thought about, or even talked about walking away.

But….

What if your doubts about your compatibility were quenched with assurances that you made the right choice in each other? What if you could stick to your commitment because you both feel so good about it, no feelings of obligation? What would it mean to you to know you did everything you could before walking away from each other? What would all of this be worth to you?

I’ll help you boldly face your most difficult challenges, realize what is keeping you stuck, and devise a plan to tweak or recreate your relationship.  I want to join you in your journey and help you solve your relationship problems and move forward because I know it is possible.

You can create a thriving mutually fulfilling partnership. Let’s get started!

Articles to help with relationship issues:

How to Shatter Blocks and Stay Happy in Your Relationship

10 Ways to Rev Up Your Relationship

The ART of Loving a Man

The ART of Loving a Woman